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Take the risk out of your marital choice!
This is the first review I've ever written for a book even though I've been purchasing Amazon books for years.
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Subjects:  1. Interpersonal Relations    2. Love & Romance    3. Love / Sex / Marriage    4. Marriage    5. Mate selection    6. Motivational & Inspirational    7. Self-Help    8. Family & Relationships / Love & Romance    9. Marriage, family & other relationships   

Editorial Review

Her broad statements like "the feminist movement has become hostile to heterosexual relationships in general" and her tendency to react to callers in anger may offend, but if you can put aside her ratings-boosting fits of temper, you'll find some solid advice in Read more

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Not what the title suggests
Dr Laura gives some good advice but it is mixed with absolutely stupid advice such as when she says that a person should stay in an unhappy marriage because of their commitment.
Having a real experience is better than reading this book..
I am a foreigner.
Straightforward And On Target Advice For Couples
The book presents a compelling and eye-opening viewpoint and provides a good basis for couples who want to build better skills at relating by re-examining their behaviors. While reading, I did recognize behaviors in myself that I have also engaged in but was previously not aware of. Read more

Subjects:  1. Family & Relationships    2. Family/Marriage    3. Interpersonal Relations    4. Love & Romance    5. Love / Sex / Marriage    6. Man-woman relationship    7. Man-woman relationships    8. Marriage    9. Family & Relationships / Love & Romance    10. Marriage & relationships    11. Self-Help & Practical Interests   

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I should have read it sooner.
As a Christian man who got involved closely with two psychopathic women, I also understand that dating is a two way street. This book, more than a handful fo times, showed where not only I was wrong but where I should have also put up some boundaries in order to save myself some frustrations and heartaches.
Good consul for the rest of us.
Many Christian authors insist that courting or betrothal systems are God's way for us to avoid pain and find a "soul mate."These methods are often based on a dubious patchwork of Bible verses or an adaptation of Old Testament cultural norms.We can learn from the past, but duplicating it is not the answer.For those Christians who live in 21st century culture and deal with age-old relational issues, "Boundaries in Dating" is a practical resource.
Challenged pretty much everything I thought about dating!
Excellent Book.I read their other book "How to get a date worth keeping" first.That totally did a paradigm shift for me on dating. This book really goes into explaing why dating relationships go bad and how to identify the warning signs and how and when to confront a dating partner and what issues are central to a healthy dating relationship.A super good book.You will understand what it means to have a healthy dating relationship.These concepts can be used in a marriage also.If you want a healthy real dating relationship, this book is the one to get.I've had a number of my friends read both books and we love them both!!! ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Christianity    2. Christianity - Christian Life - Interpersonal Relationships    3. Conduct of life    4. Dating (Social customs)    5. Family & Relationships    6. Interpersonal Relations    7. Love & Romance    8. Religion - Singles    9. Religious aspects    10. Self-Help    11. Single people    12. CHRISTIAN LIVING RELATIONSHIPS DATING    13. Christian social thought & activity    14. Family & Relationships / Love & Romance    15. Marriage & relationships   

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Very helpful!
I greatly appreciate Norman Wright. I have been using his materials in pre-marital counselling for many years. He is very practical, very easy to follow, and very biblical in his approach.
thought provoking questions overall...but...
For the most part, this book is very helpful in having each person really think about what they are getting into and situations that may arise that will affect their relationship.Especially good is chapter 4 and 7, which deals with how each of you would deal with certain situations (such as inability to have kids, financial crises) as well as expectations each of you have for your relationship/marriage.My only criticism is that it is a bit sexist, focusing on the man being the head of the household and the leader...while there are passages in the bible that stress this, this seems to be emphasized in the author's writing and this seems to be a bit antiquated thinking.I think many people believe more in an equal partnership these days vs. having the hubby being the "leader" and the wife "servves" him.But other than this point, a very thought provoking book - spawns good conversations between the two of you...conversations that should be had before committing to a marriage!

Great help!
I never knew about 98 percent of the things discussed in this book...What a blessing to have read it and gone through it before we were married! ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Christianity    2. Christianity - Christian Life - General    3. Family & Relationships    4. Family/Marriage    5. Inspirational - Protestant Self Help    6. Marriage    7. Religion - Relationships    8. Religious aspects   

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Very Very TRUE!
My husband and I both endured shame and guilt based rearing in our youth.Faced with the birth of our second child due this fall, we felt the need to close some old issues that continue to reoccour in our own parenting.We picked up this book and read it in one night.We cried because this book spoke to the very core of our issues and gave us great ideas into healing our past.I would HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone who had a difficult childhood.

Finally some tools to work with
I am so grateful for this book as it has already given me so many insights. Somehow I thought that I was bad or defective, that there was something inherently wrong with me. Having read this book I realise I am the person years and my parents have made me into. A child whose family was dysfunctional and whose parents leaned heavily on alcohol as years went by, how could I have grown into a healthy young woman? Instead, I am an intelligent perfectionist, an over-responsible workaholic who tolerates being treated badly and neglects her own needs. However, I have been able to see that I can change - that I do have the right to learn to live a balanced and happy life. I also bought the work book that goes with this text book, and am thoroughly enjoying filling it in. My mind is working overtime making new connections and trying to make sense of my life, but I wouldn't change it for anything.

Not a good place to start
This is not a book for "newbies." If your family is f*cked up, you'll do better with information that is more basic to supporting your getting OUT, rather than how to survive being in it... ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Adult Children of Alcoholics    2. Adult children of dysfunctiona    3. Adult children of dysfunctional families    4. Codependency    5. Inner Child    6. Recovery    7. Rehabilitation    8. Self    9. Self-Help    10. Treatment    11. Mind, body, spirit: disciplines & techniques    12. Popular psychology    13. Self-Help / Substance Abuse   

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Excellent--Reread it Every Year!
This book will open your eyes and give you tools to figure out conversations you have every day!(I also highly recommend another of her books, _That's Not What I Meant!_ about cross cultural speaking, which includes a chapter about men and women as well.)
Worth the read, but use caution
Tannen's book is well done and worth the read.However...it is also imbued with a subtle, and sometimes not-so-subtle, bias toward a perspective which presumes female modes of communication and other activities to be inherently superior to those of males.Of course, this is a patently false presumption.The examples of female communications/activities are almost uniformly praised and those of males are much more likely to be disparaged, either subtly or explicitly.
Worthwhile for most people, men or women.
This is a very good book for anyone interested in gender differences, particularly with regard to peer expectations, communication habits and social instincts. The author touches upon a broad range of issues, but she also keeps the narrative flowing, using examples extensively. The end result is a book that is both educational and enjoyable.
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Subjects:  1. Communication    2. Communication in marriage    3. Interpersonal Relations    4. Interpersonal communication    5. Psychology    6. Sex differences (Psychology)    7. Psychology & Psychiatry / Interpersonal Relations   

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A teen's perspective on an almost four star book
"Odd Girl Speaks Out" is a book of short stories by teen and preteen girls about their experiences with relationships between other girls.Opening the beginning of each section is commentary by the editor relating to what the section will be about.
Memory Reminders
As we age I think it becomes harder and harder for us to remember our childhoods accurately.I was finishing up this book as I was giving a final exam and one of my students asked me, "Why are you reading that?"I tried to explain to her the research on female aggression that psychologists have been doing.I also tried to explain to her that authors like Simmons are making these research results and the personal "case studies" they apply to more available to the public and accessible to the people who need them (i.e., young girls, parents, and teachers).Both of these reasons should be enough for a person to read this collection of accounts of aggression, but I also feel things like this are important to read specifically because our memories are not accurate and maturity overrides our negative experiences sometimes.Even if you've forgotten what it was like to have no friends or to fear losing the friends you do have, your daughter, student, or client has not.

GREAT BOOK!
I am a Registered Nurse, with 3 college degrees, working on a Masters in Education.I bought this book for my 14 year-old daughter.After we read it together, I will give it to my friend, who is a Professional Counselor for children.She has a Masters in Ed already.I'm not saying that all these degrees I'm speaking of are important or that you need them to order this book.I think anyone with a daughter should order this book.I am only speaking about our education because I want you to know that professionals are also buying & using this book in our profession.Thank you. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Aggressiveness in children    2. Developmental - Adolescent    3. Education    4. Gender Psychology    5. Girls    6. Interpersonal Relations    7. Interpersonal conflict in chil    8. Interpersonal conflict in children    9. Interpersonal relations in chi    10. Interpersonal relations in children    11. Psychology    12. Social Psychology    13. Sociology Of Education    14. Students & Student Life    15. Social Science / Sociology / General   

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Must-read for all those whose childhoods were less than perfect, and that's most of us
John Bradshaw does a beautiful job showing how we all carry a historical "inner child," the child we really were.When that child did not get the love and nurturance that it needed, it will either act out or act in later in our adult years.Bradshaw brilliantly shows the many ways in which the inner child got hurt and how it continues to contaminate our adult lives, unless and until we take steps to heal it.This book does not dwell on self-pity or blame; rather it focuses on understanding what happened, why it happened, and then dedicates the majority of the pages to a constructive approach to healing the inner child so that we can live a full, happy life.

life changer
This is the first time that I have felt strong enough about a self help book to actually write a review. This book is one of the single most defintative reasons that I finally feel like I have the anwsers to the questions that have haunted me for 36 years.
A Good Example of Inner Child Concept.
This followup to his book HEALING THE SHAME THAT BINDS YOU which catapaulted him into becoming a host of three PBS t.v. series based on his writings, ON FAMILY and ON HOMECOMING from this book, he explains why he believes in and uses 'existential philosophy.'He feels that we need a balance between Apollo, the god of form and structured discipline, and Dionysus, god of ecstasy and creativity.The secret of balance is that all of life is a marriage of opposites: "...no life without physical death; no joy without sorrow, no pleasure without pain; no light without darkness; no sound without silence; no good without bad.True health is a form of wholeness."
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Subjects:  1. Inner child    2. Interpersonal Relations    3. New Age    4. Personal Growth - General    5. Psychology    6. Self-actualization (Psychology)    7. Self-realization    8. Family & Relationships / Interpersonal Relations    9. Mind, Body, Spirit   

Editorial Review

What are the most important things in your life? Do they get as much care, emphasis, and time as you'd like to give them? Far from the traditional "be-more-efficient" time-management book with shortcut techniques, Read more

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A Worthwhile Read even for time management junkies
The Stephen R. Covey engine has kicked out numerous books on self-help, and they consult 200 out of the top 500 Fortune companies. After all of those books and years, they have heard enough stories and waded through enough crisis situations to get a good handle on what works and does not work in all of those environments.
Excellent thesis camouflaged by flowery writing
The author of "First Things First," Stephen Covey, Roger Merrill, and Rebecca Merrill, are all involved with the Franklin Covey Company--a company most known for training individuals and institutions in "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People."The purpose of "First Things First" is to provide an expanded, fuller treatment of some aspects of the Seven Habits.These aspects include the concepts of "Sharpening the Saw" (making time to renew and develop your mental, social, physical, and spiritual health), Quadrant II (things that are important yet not urgent), Personal Mission Statements, What Matters Most (making sure you spend your time in the most important activities and relationships), Roles and Goals, Synergy and Inter-dependence, and Leadership Styles.
Integrity in the Moment of Choice

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Subjects:  1. Business / Economics / Finance    2. Business/Economics    3. Conduct of life    4. Entrepreneurship    5. Personal Growth - Success    6. Time Management    7. Advice on careers & achieving success    8. Family & Relationships / Interpersonal Relations    9. Psychology   

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Excellent
Those who have read it usually have two comments: I wish I had read this book years ago, and this book is the only thing that has really helped my relationship with this person.This insightful book was recommended to me by people I work with as a pathway inside the minds of people with BPD.Paul Mason helped me to understand why sufferers of this disorder do the things they do, and how to effectively deal with them. It is an excellent book.

Life-saver when I felt desperate!
This book was a total life-saver for me when I was in a really desperate situation. I am a straightforward, honest, responsible, compassionate and unfortunately naive guy who cannot say not if somebody needs help. People with borderline features are very needy and may drain you until you feel like a wreck, and beyond. (If you are in love, you are twice as vulnerable!) This book explains you what is going on and helps you recognize that you are not crazy and that although the other person may be charming and miserable at once, you must not neglect yourself. If you are feeling desperate, check out the BPD central webpage (by the book author) immediately and read this book within days or weeks. If you feel that you got back some control, consider reading "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. She will explain you how to improve your own life and how to avoid self-defeating patterns in the future. Both books have helped me in a very difficult private situation, but now I am also using the knowledge in the workplace, it is quite universal.

Useful, but dont agree with labels
Definitely an accurate and knowledgeable approach to this common array of symptoms.Personally I do not choose to label those individulas that are struggling with life.I actually choose to work with them and discover their true beings.Some of the most creative and wonderful human beings I have worked with have been diagnosed with BPD and unfortunately made worse by this label. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Borderline personality disorde    2. Borderline personality disorder    3. Emotions    4. Family Relationships    5. Interpersonal Relations    6. Mental Illness    7. Patients    8. Personality disorders    9. Popular works    10. Psychology    11. Coping with illness   

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excellent.......
I am a family lawyer and this book is one of the best that I have read.

It saved my soul
I have been abused again and again - over and over and overby practically everyone in my life - friends, family, teachers, and lovers.I always felt like I was a magnet for hurt and deception.One day I looked at myself in the mirror and I wasn't there - my soul was gone - in hiding.I had to do something - I walked to the bookstore since my husband had taken away the keys to the car - another example of EMOTIONAL ABUSE - and I found this book.I read it cover to cover and changed my life.Now I have the weapons to stop any emtional abuse.now I am the agressor - and my soul is back - and dancing.

someone who cares..
Hi I would like for you to know that this is a very good book. I was emotionally abused by my boy friend for 2 years and I would always have a reason for why he treated me that way. After reading this book it has really helped me to find my self and to love me again. ((Please buy the book))You will see what I am talking about..... ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Abuse - General    2. Family Violence    3. Interpersonal Relations    4. Self-Help    5. Marriage & relationships    6. Self-Help / Abuse   

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A healing journey
The first thing I had to do when I received my copy of The Five Languages of Apology was to take The Apology Language Profile in the back of the book.I approached it in the happy, fun way I used to look at surveys in women's magazines until the very first question stopped me dead in my tracks.Since it was about how a spouse should apologize for failing to acknowledge a wedding anniversary, it hit home right away.I knew this was going to be a serious book and that it would bring up some very raw emotions.My husband had recently intended to acknowledge our anniversary with a beautiful gift, but it was stolen from his car before he had the chance, and nothing more was said or done about it.Even though I knew my husband was not to blame, I needed someone to take responsibility and there was no one to do that thus creating an unresolved issue we would eventually work through.As I read more of the questions, I experienced emotions ranging from sadness to anger and by the end of it I realized that very few people had ever apologized to me at all let alone took the time to figure out my apology language!It made perfect sense to me that my preferred apology language is accepting responsibility, since people who come from dsyfunctional homes often long for someone to own up to what he or she has done or said, and because this rarely happens, communication becomes distorted.In the midst of my own issues this book was addressing, I was comforted by the words Chapman and Thomas used to lead me from feeling very alone and rejected because of the lack of apologies given to me, to experiencing some healing and closure due to the new understanding I have been given.I have also become much more aware of the apologies I see in movies and in my relationships with friends.I do believe that if we could get to the point of being willing to apologize, even if we have to stumble through it at first, we would broaden our ability to truly love one another. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Apologizing    2. Conflict Resolution    3. Emotions    4. Family & Relationships    5. Family/Marriage    6. Interpersonal Relations    7. Psychology    8. Religion / Christian Life   

Editorial Review

While most Christians agree to seek purity and save sex for marriage, few have been given a blueprint for how that should affect their view of dating and love. In Read more

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isn't there something wrong here?
first of all, i am a christian.and an evangelical, no less.i share my faith on a regular basis.in fact, it's currently my career.i do not say these things to brag, but just to clarify that i'm not a "liberal agnostic," or whatever monsters we're all scared of, who's writing just to attack the christian worldview.
You just didn't get it!This is a great book! I have the proof!
To the person who just wrote the negative response to this book:You've got it all wrong!It seems that you did not set aside your pre-understanding.The way you speak is as if you are from a different generation....as if you are about 60 years old.If you really knew and understood the single person in today's culture and what they go through, you would change your mind about this book.So, tell me what you say to the 14 year old who just found out that they are pregnant?!I have to explain it all the time to the girls who walk into the pregnancy testing center for which I am a volunteer.These youngsters need a line drawn for them.I am 30 years old and wished that I had this book when I was young.Because I didn't know anything about boundaries, which is what Harris speaks of, I would have NEVER went through two divorces.What you don't get is that today's culture tells everyone that it is okay to be premiscuous.The world tells them that it's okay to have sex if they are concentual.These kids have no idea what they are about to get themselves into, because the parents have lost their ability to parent.And there is too much peer pressure for the youth.I recently heard a report about a country in Europe trying to legalize the right for a man to have sex with a minor - no matter their age.This would mean that a man could have sex with my 10 year old daughter, and I could do nothing about it!Do you see where this world is going?!
It isn't just about not dating
This has been a very informative book.I am having my teen children read it.I wish someone had talked to me about this type of thing when I was in the dating phase.I like the fact that for those who have already gone down a path of letting too much of the physical get into their relationships, Josh reminds that Jesus can take those things and wash them clean.Definitely didn't make me feel like he was condemning.Very refreshing when you look at society's view of "if it feels good do it" and "look out for number one".I will recommend this book to all my friends. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Christianity    2. Christianity - Christian Life - General    3. Christianity - Christian Life - Interpersonal Relationships    4. Dating (Social customs)    5. Love & Romance    6. Man-woman relationships    7. Religion    8. Religion - Singles    9. Religious aspects    10. CHRISTIAN LIVING / RELATIONSHIPS / SINGLE LIVING    11. Christian life & practice    12. Religion / Christian Life   

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ESSENTIAL Reading
Dr. Warshak has done his homework, and is dedicated to diminishing parental alienation. Well researched, well-written, I cannot recommend it highly enough. If you are suspecting parental alienation, if you are a good parent, if you believe your kids should have two parents involved in their life....read this book. Do NOT let yourself slide into a secondary parenting role just because your ex or soon-to-be ex is using the kids to hurt or belittle you. Do everything you can to avoid putting your kids in the middle of your divorce. Way beyond Five Stars!!!

Proceed With Caution
Just like all the others who are damaged and angry, my friend's ex told her kids terrible things about her. Her attorney decided to focus on PAS as their primary custody issue using Dr. Gardner's work as a base. It went very wrong. The judge didn't buy it. My friend was a great mom and now she has lost custody and can only see her children during supervised visitation.
Very Accurate
As an adult child who was alienated from my father by my mother I can attest to Dr. Warshak's amazing accuracy in defining parental alienation, and its devastating impact on all involved.Dr. Warshak's suggestion that parents who are the victim of alienation not sit by passively is wonderful advice.This is a must read for all who is going through a divorce, or are divorced and believe they may be the victim of a vindictive ex-spouse who cannot separate their feelings from those of their children.The information and advice is invaluable and quite likely will serve to save your relationship with your children. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Children of divorced parents    2. Divorce    3. Divorce & Separation    4. Divorced parents    5. Family & Relationships    6. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    7. Family Relationships    8. Family/Marriage    9. Parenting - General    10. Psychological aspects    11. Family & Relationships / Divorce    12. Separation & divorce   

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Group benefits
We have used this book and workbook in a divorce recovery group at church no going on the 3rd session.We have found that it is quite helpful and provides a clear description of the issues faced by those in either a separation or divorce situation.
When a relationship ends, it feels like a car wreck!
When a relationship ends, it feels like a car wreck! Everything hurts, your days become longer your nights become lonelier and the inevitable question of why comes up. Why did that person leave? Why wasn't I good enough? Why didn't I see it coming? Why does it hurt so badly? Why can't I stop the pain? An endless stream seems to conquer your will to move on to the next level of a better tomorrow.
Get the second edition!!!
This is a good book, but I found it strange the way that Alberti always talks about Bruce Fisher's ideas in the third person. And in a couple of instances, he even contradicts Fisher's teachings! Better to just get it straight from the horse's mouth, in my opinion! Bruce Fisher is the sole author of the first and second editions. THOSE books get five stars!!! ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Divorce & Separation    2. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    3. Marriage, family & other relationships   

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Personality Plus
I read this book quite a few years ago but I really enjoyed the updated version.She has so much wisdom about this topic.I teach school and I have my students take this test. It really helps me to understand them and plan accordingly.It has also helped me to understand my kids and husband.I highly recommend it to parents and educators. Very enlightening!

Elementary foundation usually serves us best
Reviewer Pascal Schoneburg complains, "If you're totally new to personality theories and or psychology as a whole, this book may be for you - if you have aquired a knowledge foundation in psychology this book feels almost like an insult." Well, Pascal, I have a master's degree in clinical psychology and I find Littauer's simple, foundational explanations the easiest to explain, illustrate, and understand one's essential personality. Go ahead and work with other systems that give you a possible fit in 16 categories, or 9, or whatever--and see how easily you remember what you've been taught.
Level 1Reading
I have used their personality test sheet which I really liked so I bought the book to deepen my understanding. This book speaks to the reader at an elementary level, like talking to a child. I found it a bit upsetting and discontinued the book after chapter 1. If you're totally new to personality theories and or psychology as a whole, this book may be for you - if you have aquired a knowledge foundation in psychology this book feels almost like an insult. It made me feel like the authors think that the readers are like little dumb children that need stupid 'real life' examples after every single point... This book should in fact be in the children section or maybe young adults. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Christianity    2. General    3. Interpersonal Relations    4. Personality    5. Psychology    6. Religious aspects    7. Social Science    8. Sociology    9. Success    10. Temperament    11. Family & Relationships / Interpersonal Relations    12. Popular psychology