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Also Good for Fathers-To-Be
One of the very few stipulations my wife made after we learned we were going to have a child is that I read this book by the doyenne of natural childbirth in the U.S. While the tone of the book is much too touchy-feely/hippyish for me, I have to admit that it is well worth reading regardless of whether you're planning a natural childbirth or a fully tech'ed out hospital one. That said, it would be very easy to read it as gospel and get swept up in its giddy repudiation of modern medicine, so one should approach it with, if not a skeptical eye, at least with one's critical faculties fully engaged. There is also the potential that readers who are fully committed to a hospital birth may come away from this book feeling scolded, or as if their decision is somehow"wrong".
Ina May is an Inspiration to all women
I read Ina May's book "Spiritual Wifery" and was inspired to get a midwife for the birth of my child (I am now 34 weeks).This book is even better thatn the 1st because it is 1) up to date, 2)has clear recommendations on what to do to have an unmedicated birth and 3) full of science and positive birth stories, she separates fact from fiction.And there's a lot of fiction out there concerning birth in the USA!Every woman should read this book, especially pregnant women.
The Best
I love all of Ina May's books, but this one is, hands down, the best book on childbirth out there. It tottaly changed my perceptions on childbirth, my body, etc., and it is very informative when it comes to the topic of interventions and the choices that women have. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    2. Family/Marriage    3. Health & Fitness    4. Natural childbirth    5. Pregnancy & Childbirth    6. Family & Relationships / Pregnancy & Childbirth    7. Marriage, family & other relationships    8. Pregnancy, birth & baby care   

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The Sun Shone on Me
Get the "Expanded Edition" if possible. Alcoholic issues and mental health issues have been around for quite some time. Woititz Marries the two in a wonderful owner's manual for your (or someone close to yours soul) The person close to me was severely compromised by her (sober) parents ACoA issues and the other siblings' willingness to buy into the insanity. If you can find a book called "Grandchildren of Alcoholics" by Ann W. Smith, it is an excellent resourse for people who dont see alcoholism in their own families, but perhaps do see it in their grandparents. Would love to hear from others on the same journey.

Educational/Easy to Read
This book is excellant for ACOA's who wish to gain a better understanding of how their childhood has lasting effects on their life as an adult.It was my first book on the subject, and a great introduction.

Not a good first book on the subject
I've read a number of books on this subject. I wouldn't say this book was unhelpful but is too absolute in its information to be anything but alarming to anyone tentatively looking for answers. It's also not very well written. I would suggest reading either "Recovery, A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics" by Gravitz & Bowden (an excellent first book) along with "A Primer on Adult Children of Alcoholics" by Cermak for an added layer; and then, absolutely essential as a more in-depth book: "Children of Alcoholism - A Survivor's Manual" by Seixas & Youcha. Leave the Woititz book for more information. By all means, read it. It does have excellent information; just remember the adage "Take what you need and leave the rest". Something she unfortunately forgot to include. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Adult children of alcoholics    2. Alcoholics    3. Alcoholism    4. Codependency    5. Family relationships    6. General    7. Recovery    8. Self-Help    9. Substance Abuse & Addictions - Alcoholism    10. United States    11. Adolescent children    12. Coping with drug & alcohol abuse    13. Marriage, family & other relationships    14. Self-Help / Codependency   

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A Ruled Note Pad Might Do the Same Thing
As long as you have the Relationship Rescue book.He guides you through exercises in the book which makes this a redundant purchase.The book is superlative, and I am sure the workbook will be helpful for some, but don't feel it mandatory.It's more an accessory.

Excellent!
I was pleased with the condition of the book along with how fast the book arrived!

Worth the time
I checked out the audio book from the library first, Went on a road trip and listened to all 5 CD's. Was convinced that it was smart advise, so bought the workbook to do my homework. Began appying the first chapter's theories in my everyday relationships, and boom! Already am seeing a change in my mate, in response to changes in myself and the way I deal. Had to put it up on the shelf, as I got to busy to continue, but will come back to it to further my "work", especially if we backslide. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. General    2. Interpersonal Relations    3. Love / Sex / Marriage    4. Marital psychotherapy    5. Marriage    6. Motivational & Inspirational    7. Popular works    8. Self-Help    9. Family & Relationships / Interpersonal Relations   

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Useful insights, practical exercises.
Written in 1979, People Skills is a classic in the field of communication skills. Like many people, I decided to read this book after it turned up on a must-read list for consultants and business people. The book offers a useful and practical guide to someone looking to improve their effectiveness in interpersonal situations. It is broken down into Listening Skills, Assertion Skills, and Conflict Management Skills.
Starts strong, ends weak
Most books give you 2-3 really good nuggets of insight, hidden in a dry prairie of "heard-it-all-before." Such is the case with People Skills. Most of the content is obvious - have a pleasant demeanor when listening, reflect what you've heard, and so on. Not very insightful.
Classic and Vital
This was part of my "assigned reading" when I first became an IT consultant.It does a fantastic job of providing practical guidance to anyone who interacts with people (i.e., all of us).There are numerous example dialogues and many gems of advice. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Communication    2. Entrepreneurship    3. General    4. Human relations    5. Interpersonal Relations    6. Interpersonal communication    7. Psychology    8. Personnel & human resources management    9. Psychology & Psychiatry / General   

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Very good info but no Christian advice/values
The book has a lot of good information and insight, but lacks severly in Christian values, I suppose since the other is not a Christian this should not have surprised me. I am not overly conservative but still found some of the info way too far to the left. All in all the basics are good and helpful, as long as you can remember to hold to your personal principles.

The best single's book out there!
If you are into self-improvement and healing, this book is for you. I've read tons of single's books the past few years, but this is the one that I keep on coming back to. The childhood assessment resonates with me - it made things clear why I fall in love or gravitate towards people with certain personalities. I've been utilizing Hendrix's concept of putting a moratorium on my singlehood, while using utilitarian dating. Amazingly, I've learned a lot about myself, and also about other people. I particularly love the detailed strategies on how to mirror, show empathy and validate your potential partner's perspective. Very helpful. This book is very good for repeated reading. I highly recommend this to the GLBT community as well as Hendrix asserts that his Imago concept trancends gender differences. I attended a seminar by a gay therapist and this was one of the books he recommended to prepare one's self with dating and relationships - I couldn't agree with him more. I've also started reading "Getting the Love you Want" and can't wait to finish it!
Such a great read!
Going through a divorce, fired from a job where I was top producer, drug through litigation and dealing with a drinking problem was enough to send me into serious overhaul of my life. Not only did I read this book a couple of times, I have several notebooks with all my exercises that I did from the workbook/study guide. And yes...I still go back and read the book every couple of months. When you are ready for improvements in your relationships - get this book!!! ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Human Sexuality    2. Interpersonal Relations    3. Love    4. Love & Romance    5. Love / Sex / Marriage    6. Self-Help    7. Single people    8. Gender studies    9. Marriage, family & other relationships    10. Self-Help & Practical Interests    11. Self-Help / General   

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Justifies affairs
I hated this book.It says quite strongly that if you're not meeing ALL your spouse's needs ALL the time, they may "fall victim" to an affair.It is a kind of emotional blackmail.None of us is perfect at meeting our spouse's needs.While I encourage communication about these needs, it is awful to use any shortcomings (which we all have) to justify a spouse's straying.

why didn't they give us "the joy of sex"??
*sigh* someone gave us this for our wedding, so I read it on the honeymoon.
His needs, Her needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
This is a very good book and we have found it very helpful. ... Read more

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Are their situations whenthere is no love that is too much?
I believe this book points to an important human problem , loving too much. And this when that totally devoted - self- sacrifical love is an effort to change a person who will not be changed, to please someone who will not be pleased. This kind of love as Norwood rightly points out often has its origin in our failure to have the love of a parent.
Concise and rich
The content in this book can be applied to adult children.
This book can save your life! 100 stars!!!
This is the best book out there for women who feel they are trapped in an abusive or substance abuse tainted relationship. It helps you understand how you ended up in the relationship in the first place, and then helps you proceed to put YOUR life back together, and to take care of YOURSELF. Yes! It really is OK to do that. More than OK, it's mandatory. Not only for yourself, which IS your primary concern, but to be honest, your getting your act together again actually helps plant the seed for your dysfunctional drug addicted or abusive mate to maybe start making the changes in his life that must take place for him. This is a MUST READ!!!!!! If you are in one of these types of relationships this is THE BOOK to read! There are some others I recommend as well, Claudia Black's "It Will Never Happen to Me! and the book "Perfect Daughters" by John Ackerman, and also the book "Codependant No More" by Melanie Beatty. These are all MUST READS for any of you out there seeking help and guidance in respect to your various dysfuntional relationships. I just got a call from an old friend who I never expected in a million years would call me and tell me she and her husband were splitting up after years of secretly keeping from us that she was in a drug-infested and emotionally unavailable relationship. I am taking my personal copies of all of these books to her today. That's how strongly I feel. Help YOURSELF, because when you try to help him, you just make it easier for him to stay the way he is. It's the truth. HE is the ONLY person who can help himself, and he has to get to a point where he is ready to do that. It can take a really long time for some men, and some men never get there, not even for the women and children in thier lives. But, YOU CAN have a happy life. Yes....whithout him. You can, you really can, and you will be well on your way if you're willing to do some reading and take the advice of other women who have been through it. Now is the time to invest in yourself. Do it. You wont regret it! Your happiness depends on it, and maybe even your life. Read. You wont be sorry you did. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Alcoholics    2. Family relationships    3. Interpersonal Relations    4. Love    5. Psychological aspects    6. Psychology    7. Women    8. Women's Studies - General    9. Social Science / Women's Studies   

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2 1/2 stars.
this book is not very good. if you have ever had sex this book does not tell you anything new. basically it tells you a couple positions. guy on top. girl on top. it tells you not to wear a flannel pajamas and bunny slippers to bed if you want to turn your partner on. just basic things that are nothing more than common knowledge. sorry to say im very disappointed and would not reccomend this book.

Become the sex goddess you've always wanted to be!
Or at least be bad in bed, that is to say, be a bad girl. It's all about confidence, the author states, and it is. This book helps to give us women sexual confidence we may have been lacking. It's one of the better books I've read about sex, along with "Good Sex, a woman's guide" among others.
Good book, worth buying
Its a great book for any woman who wants to be a little more outgoing where sex is concerned. Outgoing meaning uninhibited not prostitute or slut girl.It's a very liberating book.The author does not advocate protitution or a loss of self respect, but an incorporation of a healthy sex life into a healthy personality. It is not meant to change your whole persona, just your outlook on sex. For example, the author tells you to go into your underwear drawer and throw away any underwear that you wouldn't want to be caught in if by chance you had the opportunity to be intimate with a hunky movie star. She is not saying to go be with a hunky movie star but to dress in more appealing undergarments for your partner or just for yourself to feel sexy and good about yourself and to be proud of your body. It definitely does not say to go out and sleep with everyone!--not at all.
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A Very Helpful Book For Singles
Ignore the negative reviews about this book. Dr. Gary Chapman has done a great job at helping single people find their love language in this book. I used it for small group bible study class & for devotional reading. It helped me connect with my christian & non christian friends, co-workers, family members, etc. in much a better way.

Not near the quality of the original
The original Five Love Languages was insightful, had a variety of examples and provided a good amount of psychological and Christian theory and application.This book is supposed to be for singles, but almost every example has to do with dating couples--people I don't really consider single.Rarely does it talk about regular friendship--and when it does, it's guy-girl friendships.I was hoping to get some insight into my same-sex friendships, family relationships and guy-girl non-romantic friendships, but this book falls horribly short of that.Get the original copy and just use a little imagination and brain-power to apply it to your single life.You'll save the time, money and frustration.

The Five Love Languages for Singles
This is an excellent book and I would recommend this to anyone.It really opens up your eyes on relationships and how they should work.I think that everyone should read this before getting married!!! ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Christian Life    2. Christianity    3. Christianity - Christian Life - General    4. Christianity - Christian Life - Interpersonal Relationships    5. Interpersonal Relations    6. Love    7. Love & Romance    8. Religion    9. Religion - Singles    10. Religious aspects    11. Religious life    12. Single people    13. Social Groups    14. Sociology - General    15. Family & Relationships / Love & Romance    16. Family & relationships   

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The average person's attention span lasts about 30 seconds. That meansfirst and immediate impressions count, and big. In this modern-day update ofDale Carnegie's classic Read more

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Great book for better communication
The key points of the book, then, can be summarized as a positive attitude toward the other person, synchronicity in actions and locating commonalities, using the correct conversational modes, and emphasizing the sensory preferences of the other person.This book is one of the simpler and easier to understand of the many books that introduce Neuro-Linguistic Programming techniques.It shows how to synchronize attitude, synchronize body language, and synchronize voice tone so that you instantly and imperceptibly become someone the other person likes.It tells how to make the best of the most important 90 seconds in any relationship, business or personal.
Teen Shyness Overcome
My 16 year old son has always been shy. I gave my son this book to read over the summer to see if it could help him overcome some of his shyness before entering his junior year in high school. Overnight, this book changed his life. Everytime he practiced a new skill his self confidence grew. Everyone is commenting on the change in him. I have purchased extra copies of this book to give to other kids who are ready to gain confidence in themselves; to feel comfortable enough with themselves to meet new people and feel comfortable with old friends. Over the years I have tried teaching my son some of the skills in this book, but until my son read the book himself he just didn't get it. Now he does. He is the happy kid I have always known him to be. He is constantly smiling now and rushes to meet life head on. I highly recommend this book to teens and adults looking for a simple answer on how to meet people and make them like you in 90 seconds or less.

helpful
I found this book really interesting and helpful in approaching people in particular to meeting new people and building a rapport.In some areas such as body language and congruency in delivering communication it overlapped with my training in social work, I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is struggling to meet people in everyday situations.If you have a background in social work or counselling chances are these are skills you already possess, great to recommend to clients though. ... Read more

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Knowing when you are manipulated by others will lighten your life burdens!
I remember buying this book when it hit the market, and now I'm buying it for others in my family to read.I'm sixty now so I've had plenty of time to see lots of games and manipulation, some of which I got pretty good at myself.No blame or shame involved.Most families pass down their learned ways of coping to the next generation so this stuff has always been going on.As I age I am very much less interested in other's games or even my own.Victims, tears, blame, "you caused my problems" I just leave to their owners.Life is too full of fun to be manipulated or guilt-tripped by anyone, and I do believe in total responsibility for my life and what happens in it.Read this and forgive yourself for your games and unplug from other's attempts to control you by any means they can.This book is one of my favorites!Recommended reading for those in the pangs of guilt from anyone, even parents or children.

Wonderful but not too easy
If you are looking for a self-help book, you may be disappointed. I tried to read this book several times over the period of the last six years in attempt to resolve conflicts in my relationships, and could not struggle too far until now, when I have some background knowledge of relationships and look not for problem-solving recipies, but for more general understanding.
What games do you play?What games are played on you?
I do not have a degree in psychology, but I am a practicing psychologist. That is, in everyday human interactions I often ask myself, "What is really going on here?What do you really want from me?What do I really want from you?" Read more

Subjects:  1. Developmental - General    2. Interpersonal Relations    3. Psychology    4. Social interaction    5. Psychology & Psychiatry / Developmental Psychology   

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Julie Fast and John Preston have written a ground breaking book for couples who want to prevent manic depressive disorder from hijacking their relationship. Fast, a health writer diagnosed with bipolar illness and clinical psychologist Preston are ideal companions. Their innovative ideas will be welcomed by exhausted partners of "bipolar individuals"--whose illness can cause them to alternate between manic and depressed behavior. Once medication has been prescribed, the key is studying the specific ways your partner is effected. This allows couples to develop pro-active strategies for treating and stabilizing mood swings and symptoms, before they develop into full-blown crises. The techniques emphasize prevention, rather than putting out fires.These include understanding the difference between the person and the disease (know when "the bipolar disorder is talking") listing your partner's specific symptoms, identifying the triggers that lead to these symptoms and transforming the "bipolar conversation"The goal of all the tools is to pinpoint early warning signs of a manic or depressive episode and be prepared with a holistic treatment plan.Other segments of the book deal with the work (checkered resumes) and financial problems (spending sprees) created by this illness. The author's ideas are engaging, compassionate and realistic--an oasis of relief and hope. Read more

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Helpful in identifying coping tips
As an individual with bipolar, I would like others to understand me and help me stop myself when I am beginning to act inappropriately.
I wish I had this book 25 years ago!
"Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder" is a book that shares real solutions to a real problem.BiPolar Disorder has been very prevelant in my immediate family for the past 25 years.I have learned to cope with the disorder in family members in my own way but I needed to do more than cope."Loving Someone With biPolar Disorder" has opened my eyes to several things.1. How to separate the illness from the person.2. Through the writing exercises I am learning how much I personally have been affected by loving someone(s) with Bipolar Disorder.3. If you want to know how you can support your loved one who has this illness, this book can give that to you.This is definitely a hands on approach and if possible you can work together.4. A holistic approach to treating this illness.Man does not live by medicine alone. 5.It is possible to head off the worst case scenarios by knowing the warning signs and using preventative treatments before things get out of hand.
Great information for those who are really motivated to help their spouse
In my case the book came too late. I had pretty much made up my mind to get out of the relationship mainly due to my inability to forgive the horrible things that happened while my husband was manic. The hints in the book are helpful to those who have just learned the diagnosis of their spouse or who are very forgiving. However, the descriptions are not sometimes detailed enough (e.g. re: first signs of each bipolar state are only given for one state). ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Depression    2. Manic-depressive illness    3. Marriage    4. Mood Disorders    5. Popular works    6. Psychology    7. Self-Help    8. Treatment    9. Coping with illness    10. Marriage & relationships   

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WHY MARRIAGES SUCCEED OR FAIL: AND HOW YOU CAN MAKE YOURS LAST
Not as useful as his later work

Not as well written as the companion book by the author
This book is very similar to "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work : A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert".It almost seems like a first draft of the other book.Not as well organized or clearly written. It is a very good book, but I would recommend "The Seven Principles" over this one.

One of my favorites
This is one of my favorite relationship books.It really focuses on communication, and gives you real guidance on what to do, and what to watch out for, in your communication with your spouse.I asked my husband to read it after I had, and he very grudgingly accepted.Once he started reading it, however, he was quite impressed, and had many highlighters and sticky notes on his favorite parts.I highly recommend.Also, I suggest this over his "Seven Principles" book which I have also read.This seems more to be the real deal, and the "Seven Principles" more of a spin off. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Family Relationships    2. General    3. Love / Sex / Marriage    4. Marriage    5. Self-Help    6. Advice on careers & achieving success    7. Family & Relationships / Marriage    8. Marriage, family & other relationships   

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"When it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man's native tongue," writes clinical sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. in Read more

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A Book for (at least) Two Generations
I came across this book and bought it in September 2004.Like most males, I like to think that I know my way around the bedroom with ladies, but when I glanced through "She Comes First", I realized you really can learn something new all your life.I bought it, and I can tell you my lady friend really appreciated it, and still does, to this day.The better part of a year later, my then 16 year old son noticed the book sitting off to the side of one of my bookshelves and asked about it.I recalled my teenage days when I didn't have a clue about female anatomy (let alone the female psyche), and I told my boy to read the book, cover to cover, so as to better prepare him for dealing with (and pleasing) women.He had lots of questions after he finished this book, and we passed some interesting conversations talking about women, men and women, and how we deal with each other on various levels.I'm sure the author didn't have this kind of use of his book in mind when he wrote it, but his book turned out to be a great sex education tool for my boy, and it opened up (and facilitated) channels of communication between the two of us on what can be an awkward subject, frankly, for a parent: sex and the opposite sex.Great book, and I recommend that other parents consider reading it and discussing with their kids - and that includes moms and daughters.

I appreciate the step by step aspect of this book
Not to brag, but I've always prided myself on being good in the bedroom (and women have never complained haha), but still, i buy as many sex books as I can. Why? Because if I can find just ONE tip that's helpful, it's worth it's weight in gold (which is much more than the price of any book). Well, She Comes First goes into amazing detail about the pleasure areas of a woman's body, where she feels things on her nerve endings, etc. Get this book and you (and she) will not be disappointed.

Eye-opening, very detailed and delivers great results
This book was eye-opening for me. I didn't know that the female intimate zone consists of so many different parts and is extremely sensitive due to a huge number of nerve endings. I am happy that so knowledgeable expert describes step-by-step which part after which part to stimulate in order to lead your lady to orgasm. I feel a lot more comfortable when it comes to orally pleasing my wife after I read this book. She doesn't have to be that involved now because I simply follow the clear and very detailed instructions and she literary melts in front of my eyes. I agree that she comes first and yet guys do pamper yourself as well with the secrets from "scientfically guaranteed male multiple orgasms and ultimate sex". My experience shows that when both partners have mind blowing time in bed spontaneity, libido and passion increase with each love making. I believe that every caring for his sexual education, performance and lady man should read she comes first. It is one of the few that contains exclusive and very valuable information that will make a great difference for your girl and your confidence. ... Read more

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Necessary Read
This book is truly the only book necessary to read about men.It doesn't advocate games or 'rules' or useless techniques.Rather, it instills a mindset of being in control of YOURSELF.In the end, it really isn't about "getting" the guy or "figuring him out".Those days are "so over"!!You learn about how to treat yourself and in this manner you teach him how to treat you.See, it's a matter of HIM fitting into YOUR life... not your having to ACCOMODATE HIS WHIMS.Most important, by valuing who you are, you are helping to bring out the best in him!What a read!

Living it and Loving it
I wish I read this book years ago.I've definitely learned the hard way of the "nice girl" that she speaks of.I can relate to all the principles because I now practice them and its good to read a book the reconfirms the way I am to men.
Attitude is Everything
This is a must read for all women, single or married.Sherry's writing style and sense of humor are right on.I've already used a few of the techniques in this book on a guy I am currently dating and it works. My guy friend now calls me when he says and can't wait to see me.I am now the one in control of what I want in a man.Thank you Diva Sherry! ... Read more

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gentle, caring and informative
This book is full of valuable information for anyone, regardless of their sexual orientation. A helpful guide for individuals who are interested in learning more about themselves and others.
Outstanding
I'm not the type to write reviews on anything but I would be a fool if I did not.This book is excellent and has enhanced my relationship with my partner. I highly recommend this book.

Newbie with lots to learn
It never occured to me that Happy and Lesbian could be in the same sentence. Through the support I have recieved and this book I now believe it is possible. This book is a whole relationship guide which is cool. Not many books take you from how to meet them to how to live with them. The history and terminology and everything included makes it a very helpful and well rounded book for everyone not just those coming out ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Family & Relationships    2. Family/Marriage    3. General    4. Interpersonal Relations    5. Family & Relationships / General   

Editorial Review

It's true that politicians blink much more frequently when they're lying, but what other behavior clues do people inadvertently give off? If you want to know if you're being boondoggled, how to tell if your date is interested in a serious relationship, or if you should take that new job, Jo-Ellan Demitrius will help you figure it all out. She gives away the tricks of her trade--jury consulting--in this eye-opening handbook for predicting the behavior and revealing the thoughts of others. She's consulted for more than 600 jury trials, including the O.J. Simpson, Rodney King, and John DuPont cases, as well as for Fortune 100 companies. If her name rings a bell, it may be because she's been on Read more

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good book -- but forgets autism
As a person who has a difficult time reading people, due to autism, I found this book useful and interesting.Nevertheless, the huge exception to all of her information is the behavior that people on the autistic spectrum exhibit.And she never, anywhere in the book, addresses the differences.

Well thought out, balanced, concise, and to the point
If you look for reliable information thoughtfully presented, as I do, you will like this book. The first author is a top-flight legal consultant specializing in jury selection. She knows what she's talking about. I especially liked the objective, analytic attitude that permeates the book. The authors never forget to qualify their statements and warn the reader that there always are exceptions and false leads. What a difference from the watered down platitudes delivered with solemn confidence that are all too common in the self-help literature! The first chapter speaks about the method---objectivity is key; there are no silver bullets; practice makes perfect. The second chapter lays out the people-reading process in broad strokes. Subsequent chapters take on specific issues: physical appearance, behavior, context, etc. Most specifics are plain common sense but there is great value in having them gathered together and systematized. There is a one-page summary of the key points at the end of each chapter. Two detailed appendices list the various signs and their possible interpretations. All in all, this book bears all the marks of a useful and trustworthy source. I enjoyed reading it and I'm sure I'll refer to it every now and then. The sequel, 'Put Your Best Foot Forward,' is good too.

Overall well written
I had high expectation for this book. The book is enjoyable, and I can so recognize so many people descrived as liars etc around me, and want to explore how well to learn toread the other people.
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Subjects:  1. Body language    2. General    3. Interpersonal Relations    4. Miscellanea    5. Personality    6. Personality assessment    7. Physiognomy    8. Psychology    9. Family & Relationships / Interpersonal Relations   

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Wonderful to learn about attachment
This was one of many books I have been reading regarding attachment.This book had my sons name written all over it.I am a mother of a foreign adopted son with many issues ahead.This has by far been the best one I have found.It showed examples of problems along with a recommended solution to correcting the behavior.We are now seeing some much needed changes in our household.I highly recommend this selection.

Fantastic!
Daniel Hughes really understands children with RAD! I especially would recommend this book for parents adopting or doing foster care.

highly recommend
We recently adopted a 9 yr old boy.This book helped me understand the source of his behavior and have more compassion.There weren't a lot of methods to help me cope, but I hope his other book will have that.
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Subjects:  1. Developmental - Child    2. Family Relationships    3. Interpersonal Relations    4. Psychology    5. Psychotherapy - Child & Adolescent    6. Child & developmental psychology    7. Child care & upbringing    8. Social Science / Social Work   

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Good Relationship Guidence
. . . from some people who know what they're talking about. I could have used this when I was in Junior High. I have been through a series of broken relationships during the past few years, mostly because I am by nature a trusting person, and ignore warning signes until the vehicle (i.e. relationship) is fixing to dive off a cliff. Since moving to "Yahoo City" almost two years ago, God's given me lots of trials to help me wise up. Now I am learning to get to know people before I get too attatched to them. I am still reading this book, but have already gotten a lot out of it. Straightforward, sensible, balenced advice. I highly reccomend.

if you werent taught, this book will teach you
I read this book a while ago, and I think I liked it so much I read it too fast :) But I see on here that there are some not so good reviews. I thought this book was fantastic! If you are familiar with Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, you are familiar with their biblicaly backed up work. In this book, they explore what makes an unsafe person, how we attract unsafe people, and how to find safe people. Another "problem to solution" book of theirs. They give a solution after breaking down the problem. After reading this book, I realized that some of the realationships in my life were unsafe and why. This book gave me courage to let go of these unsafe relationships or challenge them. To some people, determining safe people comes easy, but it doesnt always come easy to me. I may have an internal inkling that something isnt right, but I dont know why or how to solve it. This book is helpful in that regard.

Discernment versus Judgement
Discernment is objective, it alerts us that some people, places, and situations are legitimate unsafe conditions to have in our lives. Discernment is having a clear head to choose to say no and be available for safe and healthy realities. And you are able to wish them well so they one day may find the way. Then you let go and forget about it. It is in the past.